In this speech Brene Brown brings up a very valuable aspect in every day life and relationship: vulnerability. Vulnerability
is not easily produced, but Brene's studies in human connection helps us to learn the easier way to empathize, belong and love. She also shows us how to be aware of shame and fear which cause disconnection. All of this naturally leads to building trusted relationships.
In six years of her dedicated study of connection, she found the kind of people who are "wholehearted". Those people have courage to be imperfect, compassion to be kind to themselves first and to the others, they have connection as a result of authenticity. Another important thing they have in common was vulnerability.
The wonderful part of this speech is that Brene tells the story of herself and her own struggle of becoming vulnerable. During her research she realized that there are two sides of vulnerability. That it is the core of shame and fear and the struggle for worthiness, but on the other hand, it's a birth place of joy, creativity and love. Brene discovered that we numb vulnerability through different addictions. And because of that we numb the joy and happiness at the same time. It turns into a dangerous cycle. The key to get out of cycle is to let ourselves be seen and love with our whole hearts.
We
love celebrating the hero! We look up to successful people who demonstrate the glory of
achievement and accomplishment. However, each of them were preceded
by failure, criticism, and opposition. In a very real way, these helped make
the achievements possible. Taking time to hang up the superman cape and be
vulnerable, especially in the midst of things that hurt our ego, opens us up to
real connection and deeper trust.
The speech of Brene Brown "The power of vulnerability" is a great example of the Fogg's Behavior Model.
Motivation is very high:
Brene is very passionate about finding answers to help herself and others grow spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. She has numerous studies about different aspects of human communication.
Ability - it is hard to do:
She initially dedicated one year for research, and it turned into six years. She had to drive into her own challenging self-awareness. Berne went through therapy sessions to find her own way to be vulnerable and become a "wholehearted" person.
Trigger:
Breme stumbled upon the recognition of how shame and vulnerability effects connection, belongings, and love.
I did this speech as well, and like you said...what made it such a great speech is that she used her personal example of struggling with being vulnerable. That raw revealing of emotion if how we learn best, by being able to relate to another ones struggle. i appreciated to association she made between human connection/shame/vulnerability. What she said resonated with me, very motivating.
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ReplyDeletePolina- I really enjoyed your perspective and analysis of Brene's speech on vulnerability. As someone who places high importance on connection, it was eye opening to read that vulnerability is the core of shame and fear and the struggle for worthiness, but on the other hand, it's a birth place of joy, creativity and love. So, am I stifling my joy creativity and love by not allowing myself to be vulnerable more often?
ReplyDeleteBrene gives us a lot the think about. I think we can all identify with shame, fear and the struggle to feel like we are enough. Very valuable to have someone articulate it so well and break it down into understandable language. This is not always easy with feelings. Thank you for your post!
ReplyDelete"she found the kind of people who are "wholehearted". Those people have courage to be imperfect, compassion to be kind to themselves first and to the others." I loved this! It's difficult sometime to admit that we have imperfections. All of us have them. All of us, but it takes a special kind of person to accept responsibility for those shortcomings rather than placing blame for them on others. When we do this, I think it's easier to have that compassion and be kind to ourselves. We can forgive ourselves for our shortcomings, improve, learn and grow from those shortcomings and create new ways of behavior. In doing this, and realizing and understanding that we are imperfect, we then are able to forgive those shortcomings in others and the love and compassion can then be perpetuated and shared with those around us. GREAT! This world can definitely use more of it. Thanks, Paulina.
ReplyDeleteI have to agree with Cindy, that Brene personal example made this speech very strong. In my opinion most people would not divulge personal experiences about being vulnerable . In being vulnerable , it makes some people think they are weak. But Brene shows it a different way, it makes you stronger. So one being the first to say , love you in a relationship allows for trust , intimacy and being vulnerable is acceptable. So your analysis was vey well done.
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